world of Instagram and washboard abs on a beach in Bali, it’s becoming
increasingly difficult not to compare ourselves to others and this is having a
detrimental effect on our self-esteem. As a mum, it’s easy to get caught up in
the comparison game of not feeling good enough because we’re constantly bombarded
with images of ‘the bounce-back mum’ ‘the creative mum’ ‘the got-her-shit-together
the achievement of others, the less time you spend on achieving your own goals
as a woman. Low self-esteem through comparing ourselves to others
can affect our relationships, our careers and how we feel about ourselves. So how do we scroll through
Instagram without wanting to throw our phones out the window every time we see
another post of Sarah from mum club’s pristine kitchen?
something. But also acknowledge that you are better than somebody else at
something too. The Instagram mum might make of all her meals from scratch but you
can make your kids belly laugh like nobody else. Write down your strengths.
Instead of picking at other people’s talents focus on your own and work on
getting even better and expanding your skillset whether it’s in your career or
at home with your family. Your only competition is yourself. Allow yourself to acknowledge how great you are and focus on
becoming a better person than you were yesterday.
everything that you have achieved. It could be as simple as nailing a naptime workout
or meeting a deadline at work. Over the year you can keep track and look back at how
much you’ve achieved. You’ll be surprised at how far you’ve come which will
only motivate you to focus on your own goals and keep pushing forward. I was
gifted this notebook when I first had Jacob and it was a really useful tool to
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Channelling positive thinking
comparing yourself to others. Think of it as inspiration. What does that person
have that you envy? Can this be something that you can incorporate into your daily routine?
If you’re always liking pictures of interior design accounts it could be because
you wish you had more time to clean your own home. You could start by writing 3
things on your to-do list and do 3 small cleaning jobs a day to feel more
productive and happier at home.