5 things that I wish somebody had told me about pregnancy


You’ve
seen it in the movies, you’ve had friends who have gone through it and you’ve
dreamt about this day forever. But, in reality, being a first time mum is like
nothing I’ve ever imagined and I don’t think any amount of preparation could
have helped me to understand the process. I really enjoyed reading about other
people’s pregnancy experiences while I was expecting, so I decided to let you
in on a few things that I really wish I’d have known before I got pregnant:


Anxiety


Even
though we were lucky enough to conceive after eight months of trying, those eight
months were pretty tough on me mentally. I suffered really badly with anxiety,
and every month I’d be worrying that something was wrong and whether it was ever
going to happen for us. I was so overwhelmed with happiness when I became
pregnant, but surprisingly the anxiety didn’t end; I just found more things to
worry about, like something going wrong with the baby, or whether I was going
to poo during labour. Staying active, taking time to relax, and focusing on
meeting our baby was the best way for me to ease my worried mind.


 Empathy


I
don’t think you can truly empathise with other mums until you become pregnant
yourself – you can never understand the meaning of pregnancy exhaustion until
you’ve fallen asleep in your own
dinner. I have discovered a newfound love
for women through pregnancy – not just mums, but all women. Reading other
people’s stories of pregnancy and motherhood and experiencing these first-hand
really brings you closer to what it means to be a woman and how amazing and
resilient we all truly are.
    Change
During
pregnancy, you experience change near enough on a daily basis. I imagined
myself plodding along for nine months, slowly getting bigger and less mobile,
but not much else. In reality, changes are happening inside your body from
before you even know you’re pregnant and they appear in all kinds of funny
ways. From stretchmarks and cellulite and spots, to gas, wet knickers and
constipation – every day is completely unpredictable. Then, just when you feel
like you’re getting your head around it, your baby moves inside you.
And you freak
out
.



Planning

Thanks
to these daily changes, planning pretty much goes out of the window during
pregnancy. A night out two weeks from now? Pass me the mocktails! Until you
wake up that morning with a blistering migraine and you can’t get out of bed.
Sure, I can manage five workouts a week as usual – until one day you’re suddenly
so exhausted during the first set that you have to sit down to catch your breath.
Pregnancy is full of surprises and as someone who likes to be organised for the
week ahead, taking each day as it came was tougher than I’d expected.
 Confidence
Let’s
face it – women struggle to feel confident on a daily basis whether they’re
pregnant or not. But pregnancy really does make you question the way you feel
about yourself. It isn’t only that your physical appearance is rapidly changing
every week, something largely out of your control; pregnancy makes you question
everything that you are as a person. Will I be a good mum? Should I have worked
harder on my career before having a baby? Am I doing everything I can for the
baby? Will I be prepared? Daily affirmations helped me maintain a positive
outlook. As long as you’re doing the best you can, you have to give yourself
some credit for the amazing
journey you’ve embarked on.

What did
you find surprising about pregnancy? I’d love to hear stories of your weird and
wonderful pregnancy experiences below!

2 thoughts on “5 things that I wish somebody had told me about pregnancy”

  1. Stephanie Allan

    Hi Sophie!
    Currently reading this getting through a night feed! I couldn't agree more with how you felt while trying to get pregnant. We were lucky it only took us 6 months but every month was fresh hell waiting then wondering why it wasnt happening. I thik as soon as you make that decision you're ready to be a mum every day that you're not is pretty hard and I wasnt ready for that! It's quite a lonely time as not many people want to talk about it and you constantly bat off questions like 'when are you two going to have kids' The other thing I didnt expect was the new and overwhelming love and respect I had for my own mum – and all the times I regretted being an absolute bitch growing up.

  2. It's literally the hardest thing isn't it?! I don't think it matters whether you've been trying 9 weeks or 9 months it's still tough on anyone. It's the not knowing whether it will even happen for you with your first one that's so hard. Yes!! Totally agree. Even when I was in labour I kept saying to her 'mum how did you do this 7 times?!' Now I get it when she seemed stressed all the time but at the time you just presume that they're being a crank.

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